So last night I found myself intertwined in a very interesting conversation, which sparked an intriguing question that has held many theories in the past: What is love? Now after several minutes of organized chaos that went running through my mind of how can one possibly answer this question, I was able to conceive an answer, Love is indescribable. Now wait one minute, how is indescribable an answer. The mere definition to indescribable alone is; not able to describe. So without a description what are we left with but an empty answer, the starting off point of this simple question: What is it?
I believe there are several different variations of love. You can definitely be in love with someone and you can have love for someone and of course I think there are many people who will agree with me on that.
Being in love with someone is something that I have always tried to explain, but yet the words just can’t come out as to what the feelings really are. I have always said being in love with someone is when that person can walk into a room and nothing else matters. They can walk into your life and all of the hurt, the pain and strife that you are going through is taken away when you see that one person. Knowing that, that one person is the one and the right one. They would bend over backwards; walk through fire to be with you. The whole being in love situation also comes with a slight complication that can happen, what if you are in love with someone and they are not in love with you back. They may love you but are they in love with you? It is a very difficult question and sometimes though it may be hard, realizing before it is too late is sometimes better before letting your unreciprocated feelings just left in the dark.
Having love for someone is something that in contrast is hard to see and realize and although there are several similarities to being in love and having love, there is a difference. You care about someone, you would be there for them, and you love them, but are you head over heels in love with them…. Don’t have doubts though, you can have love for someone and with time fall in love with them, but it does take time.
I do believe that you can’t really know what being in love is without ever really experiencing it. I think a lot of people get caught up in the emotion of wanting to be in love they totally throw out the fact that time is of the essence. Although it may seem like something that you may be sure on, and you may think right away that you are in love, it is something that you should definitely not speed through. I mean it is your feelings for goodness sake take care of them wisely. Sure it is something that is easier said than done, but we have to stop, sit back and look around sometimes, take in that quick breath of fresh air. Learning to go with the flow and learning that what you love maybe just something that you really like a lot is something that is a constant battle between your head and your heart. How can we decipher what is going on between them both and make sure we are making a correct decision, only time will tell. We are so quick to run to the finish before stopping to see if this is the track we are supposed to be on.
Love isn’t as simple as a four minute love songs that we set on replay on our ipods, it takes time. There is a course, a road that has not yet been travelled until that time we decide to make a conscious effort with someone. Along the road we learn, we grow with that person and on our own. Things take time, wouldn’t you rather be in love with someone and know who they really are, then be in love with someone for what you think that they are based on only a few minutes or days that you have had with them?
I have wrote on several instances about love… but as I sit back today and wonder, how can I really know how to write love without ever being to the point of being in love? I can make my accusations about what I think it may be and hey I think they are pretty close definitions, but it is my word against every other person out there.
