Race is a marathon not a characteristic of a person...

I just wanna know what the fuck is wrong with people and why they think that what they are doing is right, when they are criticizing you for the same thing that they are doing....hello pot calling the kettle black! Get a fucking clue!

After a recent facebook (I know seriously a facebook digg come on how old are we?!)wall post, in which all I said was "Where's your patron? Maybe Blonde Snooki took it" In which I get a comment back (AND I APPOLOGIZE TO ALL WHO READ THIS, BECAUSE THESE ARE NOT MY WORDS AT ALL!!!!) "BITCH...wtf are you talking shit for, i hate people who talk shit, thats some fagot ass shit, you talking shit makes you a fagot"

Are you kidding me!? Please tell me that you just basically commented on what I said by talking shit....ha so does that make you what you are calling "fagot ass shit"
Please grow up... First of all calling someone a "fagot" is not a term that I believe should be said, just like the N word....To me it is a classification of character, it is who someone is, it is deteriminate factor of what makes a person, something that they may not be able to control at all. Granted when it comes to race/characterization/qualities of a person, I quickly will throw out racial asian slurs, I know I'm really bad about it, and at the same time I know that I'm not politically correct at all either. Which I guess is another lessoned learned. But at the same time, it doesn't make someone less "normal" because they have the N word or the F word or any word that can be thrown their direciton to classify them as a person. Maybe my standards for people are higher for than others, just because I value every person as an individual. People can't help what they look like (however they can change it) they can't help what the color of their skin is or their sexual preference is something that may not be the same as yours or ours or anyones, but that doesn't make a person less of a person because they are not the same as you...

L-O-V.....excuse me!?

Love - The word should definitely not be taken lightly....Is it one of those things that you just blurt out and say? NO...and if you do does that mean you really truly mean it and you didn't know how else to say it. Some of us get scared, some of us really don't know what to say. Who really just blurts out, I love you, and not once oh but twice. How can you be sure that you really love someone? I know how you can tell if you have love someone but to tell if you are IN love with someone now that is the question. I know that I love a lot of people in my life, but how will I ever really know if I am in love with that one person? I don't think you can truly love someone until you trust them (thanks Ne-yo for that brillant thought). What basis do we have if we can't trust someone? I know that myself I have huge trust issues, I have love for certain people in my life, but still to this day have a hard time trusting people, even friends. There are certain times that I wonder if one can live a life without falling IN love... And the age old question for everyeone is there one person for everyone out there, we will never know, but I believe. Maybe for those that don't believe will never be able to find that one person, but I believe. I think that everyone has a soulmate besides their best friends that always somehow bring out the best in them. I believe that there is that one person that can bring a smile to one's face and always know how to make things better. We live our lives by the lyrical love songs, that there is a way, and that one will always love you. We wouldn't be able to write such words without such passion of love.

I think that I have been close before to falling in love, and yes it terrifies me and to say the least I am pretty commitment phob, I mean the word relationship litterally gives me chills, however I guess I should probably start growing out of that and maybe start realizing feelings are there for a reason. You can't help how you fell or what you feel for someone. I always said that when you fall in love you know...When that person walks into your life, nothing else matters.

Bored at work...

When does one realize that they are just stupid and foolish?

Are the excuses just excuses or are they real reasons. One can only make excuses for so long, you would think. How many times can you really be pushed to the side. Everyone is an amazing person, well at least the people I hang out with, but with that we have such amazing qualities that make us who we are and define our character. We have to grow to accept and love ourselves before we can even let anyone in to love us as well.

The essence of a male that a woman will never understand:

The essence of a male that a woman will never understand:

No matter how much he loves you, almost 100% of the time he has been given the gift of sight, which means he will look at other females, you may not see it, but it does happen, they may not even be attractive, but they are looking.

As hard as it is sometimes to understand, it is very rare that men actually think. They on most occassions do not, so don't be upset if you're feelings are hurt, remember men mature slower than women, meaning their brain also matures a little bit slower and they tend to process S-l-ower :-) Unless you spell it out for a guy most of the time he doesn't catch on.

The who called who first or who text who first: It doesn't matter as long as you're not the sole person in the conversation! No guy really keeps track...you can text him first or he can text you first there isn't really a score card on the side of his phone where he tallies the number of times you call/txt. As long as it's in moderation...

Don't Let One Bad apple ruin the bunch...

Through many life experiences we are supposed to learn, grow and change for the better. We however sometimes tend to judge and hold back and fear taking a risk that we will never know if it was worth taking. Holding our past against our futures pretending that we are ok instead on the inside all we think about is fear. We are scared, sometimes afraid to admit it, but we are. As a female I know that I am terrified sometimes. Afraid to take a risk, show who I really am and be who I am because of the torturous fear that we are being judged for someone we are not. Now speaking for the females in this day and age we at times feel as though we are being used, only there for the game of fun. Being taken advantage of and to the full extent we feel as though this internal feeling of acceptance is acknowledged as positive attention when in all reality it is just a false sense of happiness. We have become so accustomed to the lack of respect we have lost respect for ourselves, letting these actions be ok. And whose fault does it turn out to be? We quickly judge the male party. We automatically believe that this was there fault that they made us feel that way. However to partially stand up for the ..male population it isn't their entire fault. We, unbeknownst to a lot of individuals were graced with right to choose, the right to have self control and stand up for what we don't want. However some of us don't realize that the negative decisions that we have made are slowly tearing us apart internally. We start to barricade ourselves against the next male that comes in our path that may give us that false sense again, but what is that proving. Holding our own mistakes for blame against a different guy and letting him catch the guilt for our own actions and using those basis for the next male that comes in our path. I, just as many of us know what it is like to be hurt, cheated on, manipulated and used. It is hard to go out meet a few people and not expect that they only see you as that one night thing that will only satisfy their sexual desires. We put ourselves in situations that only lead us to believe that we are different then the last, that we can change him and make him a better guy. We try and hope to believe that we are not that girl. After so many times of such mistreatment and being taken advantage of you would think we'd stand up, but we don't. we fall down again and again, falling for the same thing, we then become so afraid to even try and stand up because it is to hard to get back up after being pushed down so many times. We think we've learned our lessons, but sometimes we only choose to follow in our old steps instead of creating new ones. Following in those that have made the same mistakes and learning from them instead of learning for ourselves. We let the little things in life push us so far down, we don't get up, we let go our structure and being to believe that the pieces won't go back together. Our goal should be to learn from your past so that doesn't shape your future. Let the mistakes shape you to be a stronger person that will grow and learn.

*OLD POST*

Being Single isn't the end of the world....at least until I'm 40

I am going to talk about something more important.... I am going to talk about WHY YOU NEED TO BE SINGLE.
Cause it's the first start, to a fresh relationship.....because it starts with yourself. ___________________________________________________
I for one used to think that I "had" to be in a relationship to be happy.... I didn't know why I thought this... it's just that in High School, if you weren't dating someone, you must be a dork, or something was wrong with you. (maybe you smelled bad or sucked at kissing, maybe both.... LOL kidding) But it's not just High school, that makes you feel this way.... it's the entire Mid-West.
For some strange reason, not known to the common Midwesterner... we all forgot what dating was all about, and more so...what being single was all about.
Being single isn't so much a time to spend playing around with your friends at the bars and clubs....or getting with as many of the opposite sex that you can.....
It should be a time used for 2 things..... two very important things I might add.
1) Self Reflection..... you just got out of a relationship.... you might need to find out who "you are again" and what your goals are in this life... and what you want out of it.
2) Goals for your next "love of your life"...... Sure I am making fun of the "love" part...cause we all know that we have thought we were head over heals for the last person.... well maybe not the last person.... but $10 says you have had one in the past. Though... obviously she / he wasn't right for you.... thus the end of the relationship. So why not take this time to set aside some ideas on qualities you would like the next date to posses. If this date doesn't posses them... then move on to the next date that may....
SO here is the deal.... yes I enjoyed being single....

Because I got to find out who I truly am..... I may not have everything in life figured out... but who cares... I'm 20.... I don't have to have it all figured out. I would like to still make some mistakes, and learn as I go. That's how I learn... trial and error...

So how does this apply to being single..........?????????
Well, first off find yourself..... once you do that, you will have a much easier time finding that person that really makes you happy... .that person that makes you all giddy inside... and you can't sit still... like you got ants in your pants. If you jump into a realationship....while your busy finding yourself... she/he may not think you have it all together... or that you are maybe something your not.... Heck you might be soooo in left field on who you are, you might mistake them for someone you THINK you need to be with.
So I suggest NEVER dating a person... and then settling thinking you "won't find that special person" That is BS... their are 7 billion people on the planet (or something like that) and 49 other states in America chances are you can find someone better then that crazy EX you had... that drives you up the wall...

If you have already settled.... end it now..... cause your wasting both of your time. If you aren't feeling the butterflies in your stomach... then you my friend have missed the boat. So you might as well jump out now... swim to shore... and try for the next one.... Trust me that it's worth it.
I know it's easy to say.... Just wait.... be single... it will be worth it. But for those of you that know what I am talking about.....we can all go back stage and high five each other.
A relationship is supposed to be fun.
Sure it takes work... though it's not a JOB


It should be this simple... and it can be.
You like her
She likes you
You treat her with respect
She treats you with respect
You have fun with each other....
Things progress.
It should not be like hop scotch, where you take 3 steps forward... and 2 steps back...hoping to reach the end of the mat.
So moral of the story.... use your single time wisely....and wait for the butterflies.


"It should be like that thing, that moment, when you kiss someone and everything around becomes hazy and the only thing in focus is you and this person and you realize that that person is the only person that you're supposed to kiss for the rest of your life, and for one moment you get this amazing gift and you want to laugh and you want to cry because you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared that that it will go away all at the same time." - Never Been Kissed

***SORRY THIS IS AN OLD POST :-)***

Todays top 10 topic: Little annoying things that could be avoidable...

#10 Drivers who don't use their blinker but then get mad at you....its a turn signal for a reason!

#9 People that think they need to control things, but really it is out of their control

#8 People who don't take responsibility for their actions...ahem you did it, own up!

#7 The little lies...

#6 slurpping with your mouth when youre eating...do I need to know that you are eating?? You sound like a horse at a trough....

#5 People who call the wrong number but then get mad at you....WTF you called doofus!

#4 When people don't know how to speak correctly and it grammatically shows in THEIR facebook status or texts.

#3 Seat up or seat down boys and girls?????!!!!!!

#2 Lazines...enough said

#1 If you use the last of the toilet paper, at least put a new roll in the vicinity of the toilet!