Maybe it does matter...

"30 years from now, it won't matter what jeans you wore, how popular you were, what your hair looked like, or what sneakers you wore. What will matter is what you made of your education, and where it took you in life."

Surprisingly as much as it seems that we are just trying to front that the comments and the way you look wouldn't matter to everyone, we do let the little things phase us. It was recently brought to my attnetion that a skirt I wear may be a little too shirt, that the high heels that I walk around in are a little to high and the "cat-eye" like make up that I do is a little disturbing. I never thought that it would phase me as much as it did. Honestly I wanted to wear my shortest skirt and do my make up even better than the last time, and the heels well I'm short and they can get over the fact that I look good. As Erin Brokivich says, "As long as I have 2 asses instead of one, I'll wear whatever I want to" These women, mid 30 and 40 year old females, have decided that making a mockery is what they will do at their weekend jewelry parties. Pretty sad that you have nothing to do but sit around and talk about someone you feel threatened by. I will never understand but for now...F off I will wear what I look good in, and for now that is probably everything you can't wear!

Interesting...

So I saw this on my Yahoo homepage today and thought I'd share it with you guys! Soooo, what do you think, have you found The One yet?!?! haha!! its hilarious but enjoyable to read

The Indications:

So chances are, there is more than one person out there who fits the bill for you. All of them are less than perfect. But if there are no perfect partners, how can you know whether to stay or go? Here are 10 relationship markers to help you know if he or she is The One:

1. When you're together you feel like you've come home.

2. You feel like your partnership was meant to be, as if kissed by destiny.

3. In your communication with each other there is a rapid "knowing" of what each of you means.

4. You have a shared mission in life, perhaps a cause, a career, or the creation of a family life.

5. When you're together the world seems like a better place.

6. Your mood is elevated when you're together. It's not necessarily passion or excitement, although that's there too at times.

7. When you look at him/her you see a part of yourself that's been missing. Perhaps it's her assertiveness or his joy of adventure. But it's something that when added to your life, makes you feel more complete.

8. Being together makes you more hopeful about the future you are creating.

9. You can be more authentic and fully yourself around your partner.

10. Being together makes each of you work harder on overcoming bad habits and becoming more loving people.

Don't worry if you don't feel all 10 of these things when you're with your partner. That's where the imperfection comes in -- either in you or your partner. If you are experiencing six or more of these markers, chances are you are matched well. Over time you can work towards having all of these qualities. Couples who have lasting love find that their relationships get closer and better over time. And that process has been my privilege and good fortune to experience personally -- after a lot of hard work that continues to this day!

Bottom line: your chances of finding The One are better than you think. So go out there and start looking. Love almost always comes in a surprise package that opens up in marvelous and magical ways.

New Me....

I guess for awhile now, I have been doing some major revamping on who I am...And for the most part I think that there have been some positive changes in my life. In the past few months, I have decided to rid my life of the negativity, that I should stand for something before I fall for everything.

Life has been an uphill battle, but at the same time, everything that has happened has only made me who I am today as well as a stronger person. I won't be the person who will sit back and let things slide, because I am stronger than that and learned that lesson too many times.

Too much in life we hold onto the past struggling to make things the way they were because were comfortable in that state of mind, however learning to take on new challenges seems to be exciting. I'm learning that settling is not something that I should ever have to do, because I am worth what I put into myself.

If you always make the choice and feel like it is not the right one, maybe re-evaluation is something that you should take into consideration.

Don't take things for granted, one day it might mistake you for easy.

Today...

As I sit here with tears just starting to well up in my eyes, I have to sit back and realize what am I doing, why on earth am I crying?

Finally after 11 months of going back and forth being taken advantage of and seeing what things really are, I let go. I had to let go and yet I am not looking back, I can't. I have to learn that walking away even running for that matter is the best.

Even though it hurts really bad, I have to do it, and hey you never know as fast as I run, it may just be in a circle, but I have to at least start....

I mean how long can one person go on with a charade of what they really want out of life, as opposed to taking a stand and really just getting what you want.

It's time for me and what I want and I'm not settling for less than that.

Be you

Why does it matter what people think? It is something I have to ask myself and yet sometimes I still let the comments about what people think of me get under my skin. Sometimes it is hard to brush off what is said. Somethings can be truly hurtful. People think that they really know something about you, but deep down we all put up the walls to make sure that our truest feelings are only shown when we feel a little bit of ease with trusting someone. People are sneaky they use things against you, they talk about you when you aren't around...we are all guilty of a little bit of gossip, about the opposite sex, same sex regardless....we talk.

Brush it off your shoulders, the more they talk the famous you are. You are only what you answer too...

life...

So lately, it has been brough to my attention by some close friends of mine that they think I have grown up. I really value that...honestly. It's hard to see the change in yourself at times. Over the past year, things have happened that have made my perspective on life completely change.

There are certain things in life that I believe we may take for granted, and I have realized that it may be hard, but you have to sit back and be thankful. You can't always have what you want in life, and that is the point. You always have to want...because without it what is the point at all.

These past few months even have showed me...that I am lucky, that I have a great life and even though there are small things out there that happen to me, in the big scale of things it is not nearly detrimental compared to others.

I have learned that prayer even through the darkest time is something that I should cherish, because I have faith I know that with God that I can find the light at the end of the tunnel.

Things happen, people change, life has road blocks....

What's love, but a second hand emotion?!

So last night I found myself intertwined in a very interesting conversation, which sparked an intriguing question that has held many theories in the past: What is love? Now after several minutes of organized chaos that went running through my mind of how can one possibly answer this question, I was able to conceive an answer, Love is indescribable. Now wait one minute, how is indescribable an answer. The mere definition to indescribable alone is; not able to describe. So without a description what are we left with but an empty answer, the starting off point of this simple question: What is it?

I believe there are several different variations of love. You can definitely be in love with someone and you can have love for someone and of course I think there are many people who will agree with me on that.

Being in love with someone is something that I have always tried to explain, but yet the words just can’t come out as to what the feelings really are. I have always said being in love with someone is when that person can walk into a room and nothing else matters. They can walk into your life and all of the hurt, the pain and strife that you are going through is taken away when you see that one person. Knowing that, that one person is the one and the right one. They would bend over backwards; walk through fire to be with you. The whole being in love situation also comes with a slight complication that can happen, what if you are in love with someone and they are not in love with you back. They may love you but are they in love with you? It is a very difficult question and sometimes though it may be hard, realizing before it is too late is sometimes better before letting your unreciprocated feelings just left in the dark.

Having love for someone is something that in contrast is hard to see and realize and although there are several similarities to being in love and having love, there is a difference. You care about someone, you would be there for them, and you love them, but are you head over heels in love with them…. Don’t have doubts though, you can have love for someone and with time fall in love with them, but it does take time.

I do believe that you can’t really know what being in love is without ever really experiencing it. I think a lot of people get caught up in the emotion of wanting to be in love they totally throw out the fact that time is of the essence. Although it may seem like something that you may be sure on, and you may think right away that you are in love, it is something that you should definitely not speed through. I mean it is your feelings for goodness sake take care of them wisely. Sure it is something that is easier said than done, but we have to stop, sit back and look around sometimes, take in that quick breath of fresh air. Learning to go with the flow and learning that what you love maybe just something that you really like a lot is something that is a constant battle between your head and your heart. How can we decipher what is going on between them both and make sure we are making a correct decision, only time will tell. We are so quick to run to the finish before stopping to see if this is the track we are supposed to be on.

Love isn’t as simple as a four minute love songs that we set on replay on our ipods, it takes time. There is a course, a road that has not yet been travelled until that time we decide to make a conscious effort with someone. Along the road we learn, we grow with that person and on our own. Things take time, wouldn’t you rather be in love with someone and know who they really are, then be in love with someone for what you think that they are based on only a few minutes or days that you have had with them?

I have wrote on several instances about love… but as I sit back today and wonder, how can I really know how to write love without ever being to the point of being in love? I can make my accusations about what I think it may be and hey I think they are pretty close definitions, but it is my word against every other person out there.